Abuse is a pattern of behavior where one person tries to control the thoughts, beliefs or conduct of a person close to them. It can include physical, emotional, sexual or economic abuse. If you are in an abusive situation, there is hope. No one deserves to live with emotional, physical, or sexual abuse.

You have choices. Some options for a victim of a violent relationship include:

• Telling a trusted friend or family member. Abuse thrives in silence and isolation. It may be difficult to tell someone about your situation, but taking positive action to end the abuse is easier with support.
• Safety Planning. Preparation including being aware of your surroundings, and planning where to go and what to do in case of a violent incident.
• File for a Protective Order. Although the protection offered by a protective order has limits, breaking any part of this order can mean jail time for the abuser. Serious consequences for the abuser can result in greater safety for you.
• Seek Counseling. Counseling can help you raise your sense of self-worth, empower you to make healthy choices about your life, and realize that you are not to blame for what happened.
• Seek Shelter. If you are in fear for your physical safety, go to the home of a friend, relative, neighbor, or to a shelter for victims of intimate partner abuse.
• Reach out. Help is always a phone call away. Contact your local 24 hour crisis line for immediate confidential counseling at 1-800-544-2022.